These People Are Not Your Friends, But Are Your True Friends Only On Condition... Hmm?

Video response to Hamza Unfiltered's "They're not your friends" video.

Overall good video. Real solutions and valid points.

Main takeaway: If they do a bad habit together with you and wouldn't be your friends if you stopped, they are not your real friends. Furthermore friends you do bad habits with and bring the worst out of you are not your friends.

Also mentioned go to the gym and develop good habits and businesses and succeed, those are real friends.

Tobi's Take:

Are those who are a negative influence your true friends? No.

Do some of them have redeeming qualities otherwise and care about you? Depends.

We are not perfect but those who have bad qualities best not to emulate. But if they truly care for you and are kind to you then take that.

People you are around who bring the best out of you and want you to succeed those are your real friends.

Those who care about you, those are your real friends.

I disagree about successful friends always being your true friends.

Yes they are positive influences for the most part.

But will they still be your friend and treat you well when you are no longer successful or still want the best for you even if you part ways?

Some successful friends only want you for what you produce not who you are.

I also disagree that everyone has to go to the gym to succeed or be worthy of anything.

General exercise and a balanced diet the best way to improve general health? Yes

Do men in general respect general exercise? No.

Most men want to see feats of strength, big muscles, and athletic feats and this is often NOT healthy.

If you don't fall into that you are generally not respected by these same men who preach exercise yadda yadda yadda.

Freshman year of college I finally knew what it was like to be in friend groups that accepted me. Or I at least thought accepted me.

But I didn't feel they respected me. Some took me in and didn't respect my values. Others were so called friends who clowned me.

Others smile to my face and talk trash about me behind my back but I am cordial and respectful to them because it's the right thing to do. I already know I'm not their friend at all.

It took until age 19 to develop self respect and gained control of what I wanted out of friends.

Also to know who truly my friends are.

It's better to be alone or have few friends then many friends who bring you down.

You can still have a lot of friends or even one or two friends and still feel alone.

Slowly seperate and cut them loose then find real support system that is actually loving and caring and want the best for you.

Moreso, find that one passion or thing you look forward to doing. Even if it's not the gym. Don't have to master it just make sure you feel good. And learn to enjoy your own company.

If you truly love yourself and who you are, which comes with time and some never, you will appreciate life more, perspective will be better, and when a good person comes along you will appreciate them.

Also treat and talk to others with respect even when you help them. Also pick and choose your battles. This will also come with time.